Time to go into the dark where the night has eyes to recognize its own." From Sweet Darkness, by David Whyte Divorce could be one of the worst experiences of your life. It could be a journey plagued by fear, doubt, stress, anxiety, rage, and regret. It could make you feel … [Read more...]
Mindfulness
How to use mindfulness in divorce to pause, focus, discern sources of suffering and degrees of control, respond wisely, and act with integrity
Don’t give up on your dreams in divorce
What beckons is the creative power of the unknown. ~Ralph Blum In the midst of a divorce, when it feels like the ground under your feet has crumbled to rubble and the landscape is unrecognizable, the wisdom of Ralph Blum may feel a little precious: pie in the … [Read more...]
How to Practice Mindfulness in Divorce
I stand before a judge in a Silicon Valley courtroom. The gallery is filled with lawyers and their clients whose fates rest in the hands of our judge. I represent a moving party whose husband has not paid the court-ordered spousal support and has presented two … [Read more...]
How to keep a healthy mind during divorce
Divorce is a taxing endeavor for almost everyone. It's exponentially worse for those in high conflict cases divorcing difficult spouses. For those whose spouses are unable to control their impulses and say things like, "You don't deserve to get anything" or, "I want sole legal … [Read more...]
Who can you trust during divorce?
Your spouse may have betrayed you. Your spouse's lawyer may be untrustworthy. And your brain may feel like a traitor. So who can you trust during divorce? Only you know who you are, what you like, and what you can't live with or without. Even if you are working with a … [Read more...]
Is your brain your worst enemy in divorce?
Our brains can be our worst enemies when it comes to decision making because, different parts of our brains cause us to want different, and often conflicting, things. The NAcc might want to buy something pretty "but the insula knows that you can't afford it, or the prefrontal … [Read more...]