California is a Community Property State, which does not mean that the separate property of a bride and groom automatically becomes community property after the wedding. Nor does it mean that all property a spouse acquires during a marriage is community property. What it means, … [Read More...]
Separated and Scared? How does fear stop you?
Fear is, for some, fuel that propels to great new heights, but for most, it is self-sabotaging sludge. According to research conducted by Ruth Soukup, Author of Do It Scared: Finding the Courage to Face Your Fears, Overcome Adversity, and Create a Life You Love, there are … [Read More...]
Be your True self during divorce
“Put your ear down close to your soul and listen hard.” ~Anne Sexton As you go through the process of divorce, you’ll hear many voices: your spouse, children, friends, family, lawyer, accountant, mediator, therapist, strangers, and/or the judge. You’ll also hear the voices of … [Read More...]
Process Grief and loss of a spouse to divorce
Few experiences are more painful than the loss of a loved one, whether through death or divorce. Losing someone shakes us to the core, shatters our understandings of the world, and plunges us into grief. Grief is a natural response to loss. It can disorient, numb, enrage, … [Read More...]
Use The Power of Intention in Divorce
Each of us has a sense of the possibilities of a human life. If we haven’t taken those possibilities seriously and gone after them, why not start now? ~Rick Hanson PhD Every pivotal moment confronts us with a choice: separation and divorce are no different. How the … [Read More...]
Love Yourself Fiercely During Divorce—Practice Self-Compassion
At the crossroads of marriage and divorce, we face some of our greatest fears: making a mistake or the “wrong” choice, being alone or unable to take care of ourselves or the people we love. It’s here, at this liminal threshold—when we’re neither in nor out—that we must meet … [Read More...]
Heal in Solitude in the Winter of Divorce
In her book, Wintering,The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times, Katherine May writes beautifully: Plants and animals don’t fight the winter; they don’t pretend it’s not happening and attempt to carry on living the same lives they lived in the summer. They prepare. They … [Read More...]
Who’ll make healthcare decisions during divorce?
"The moment of death, like that of birth, is our time of greatest need." ~Andrew Holecek COVID-19 has brought us face to face with our mortality and the hazards of critical illness. We could be placed in isolation or on ventilators. We may become incapable of making our … [Read More...]
Don’t give up on your dreams in divorce
What beckons is the creative power of the unknown. ~Ralph Blum In the midst of a divorce, when it feels like the ground under your feet has crumbled to rubble and the landscape is unrecognizable, the wisdom of Ralph Blum may feel a little precious: pie in the … [Read More...]
How to make divorce eco-friendly
But in a dark time, the eye begins to see.” Theodore Roosevelt "'...Society must radically decarbonize to spare the future from the worst consequences of climate change. The next few years are probably the most important in our history,' Debra Roberts, an environmental … [Read More...]