When you're getting divorced it's easy to be frazzled-fried by Friday night. How do I know? Because I've been a divorce attorney for two decades and I'm often fried on Friday nights. Having spent all week listening to my client's divorce related problems, finding solutions, … [Read more...]
How to use mindfulness in divorce to pause, focus, discern sources of suffering and degrees of control, respond wisely, and act with integrity
Who can you trust during divorce?
Your spouse may have betrayed you. Your spouse's lawyer may be untrustworthy. And your brain may feel like a traitor. So who can you trust during divorce? Only you know who you are, what you like, and what you can't live with or without. Even if you are working with a … [Read more...]
Is your brain your worst enemy in divorce?
Our brains can be our worst enemies when it comes to decision making because, different parts of our brains cause us to want different, and often conflicting, things. The NAcc might want to buy something pretty "but the insula knows that you can't afford it, or the prefrontal … [Read more...]
Everything changes: cancer and divorce
Diagnosed with cancer at age twenty-seven, I was surrounded by patients the age of my grandparents. I felt incredibly alone. After treatment I shed my hospital gown and hit the road, recording intimate conversations with other twenty and thirty-something cancer patients. From … [Read more...]
Divorce Care for Christians: What does God say about divorce?
Does God consider you a second-class citizen now that you’re divorced? What if you now realize that you sinned by asking for a divorce for the wrong reasons? What does god say about divorce? As mentioned before, God “forgets” our sin the moment we confess it to Him, and … [Read more...]
Christians and divorce: What if I’m seeking divorce for the wrong reasons and I know It?
You didn’t plan it, anticipate it, or expect it, but there it was: When they walked into the room, you were a goner. The chemistry between you was undeniable. You tried to ignore it, deny it, even purge it, but the magnetism was like the irresistible force meeting the immovable … [Read more...]