I know it’s almost impossible to escape negative emotions during separation and divorce – I’ve been there – and even former Buddhist monk Jack Kornfield admits divorce is difficult. But as Deepak Chopra says, “You are the Universe.”
You have limitless potential to transform your personal existence. The end of a marriage is no different. You can practice mindfulness and be respectful of others. You can elevate love and compassion. You can turn the tide, rise above the legacy of divorce, and make the process a healing catalyst of new dreams.
As a former San Francisco family law trial lawyer and mediator of twenty-three years, who works with the best high asset, high conflict family law trial attorneys, judges, and a retired Justice in San Francisco, and has helped nearly a thousand men and women resolve complicated issues, I know with certainty that peaceful divorces are possible.
I’m driven by a calling to have a positive effect in our world, and I use my skill and talent to help people respectfully transition out of domestic partnerships or marriages without despair, going to court, traumatizing kids, or bankrupting themselves.
I guide those who stand at a crossroads, committed to peace and co-creating beautiful new beginnings.
What my clients say:
“Helene made it possible for me to move through my divorce with peace of mind and confidence.”
“Helene helped me navigate divorce’s often slippery slopes with grace and strength.”
“Generous, soulful, and a terrific legal mind. Helene kept me grounded. My divorce was amicable and I can speak to my ex-wife. Helene’s a dream attorney!”
“Helene is a rare gem indeed.”
In the Media
Time Magazine Online – How to Tell If Your Relationship Will Survive the Holidays
Education + Training
Negotiation training with Roger Fisher, the director of The Harvard Negotiation Project and co-author of the books Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In, Getting Ready to Negotiate and Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as You Negotiate. Fisher teaches that conflict is not simply a ‘zero-sum’ game in which a fixed pie is divided through haggling or threats. Instead, he showed that by exploring underlying interests and being imaginative, parties could often expand the pie and create value. Fisher’s seminal contributions changed the way millions of people around the world approach negotiation and resolve disputes.
Understanding conflict mediation training with Gary Friedman, founder of The Center for Understanding and Conflict located in Mill Valley, California and author of Challenging Conflict: Mediation Through Understanding and A Guide to Divorce Mediation: How to Reach a Fair, Legal Settlement at a Fraction of the Cost.
Equanimity – In the Dharma and In Your Brain, one-day retreat with Neuroscientist Rick Hanson, PhD, Author of Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love and Wisdom, and former Board Member of Spirit Rock Meditation Center
Master’s student in spiritual psychology at the University of Santa Monica
Meditation student at the Self Realization Fellowship
Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration
Juris Doctorate in law
In Court & Conference Rooms
Associate family law trial attorney to Max Gutierrez of Morgan Lewis, who has been recognized by The Best Lawyers in America in both family law and trusts and estates. Morgan Lewis is a global law firm with 2,000 employees in North America, Europe, Asia, and the Middle East working with global Fortune 100 companies.
Associate family law trial attorney to Super Lawyers Stephen Bruce Bley and Samantha Bley DeJean, who specialize in high-asset, high-conflict divorces. Clients included CEOs, national celebrities, and business owners with significant wealth and diverse asset holdings. Bley and Bley is AV rated by Martindale Hubble.
Co-counsel with Stephen Bruce Bley and Bernard N. Wolf in the family law trial preceding In re Marriage of Kieturakis (2006) 138 Cal.App. 4th 56
Opposed Certified Family Law Specialists and Fellows of the International Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers
Appeared before mediator Donald B. King, a RETIRED ASSOCIATE JUSTICE of the California COURT OF APPEAL, First Appellate District, Division Five, and private Judge Roderic Duncan (ret.)
Associate construction defect litigation attorney at Cooper White and Cooper
Mediator for the Sonoma Superior Court No-Fee Mediation panel
Family law mediation instructor for San Francisco Community Boards, which operates the oldest, longest-running public conflict resolution center in the United States with 350 volunteer Mediators. Their professional ADR services are affordably priced for independent contractors, small businesses, tech start-ups, property managers, homeowner associations, and nonprofit organizations.