Each of us has a sense of the possibilities of a human life. If we haven’t taken those possibilities seriously and gone after them, why not start now?
~Rick Hanson PhD
Every pivotal moment confronts us with a choice: separation and divorce are no different. How the journey from married to single life unfolds is a question only we can answer.
When we resist the realities of divorce and react instinctively, divorce will haunt us. If we surrender–not in passive resignation, but to the truth of our experiences–and respond with integrity and intention, we can create the future we envision.
When we release our attachments and step into the unknown, we step into a field of possibility. As Marianne Williamson tells us in The Age of Miracles: Embracing the New Midlife: when we take a decidedly different approach to a catalytic and common event like divorce, we can welcome energy that wouldn’t otherwise find us.
When we calibrate our compasses and set our intentions to pursue new lives of purpose, prosperity, and passion, no matter how rough the storms, how treacherous the terrain, or how often we must pivot, our vision is clear and our possibilities are infinite.
When you sit and reflect on your goals and aspirations, what do you envision? It might be as simple as “Be true to myself,” or it might be to build a business, establish a rewarding career, or buy a home in a new neighborhood. It might be an intention to heal, help your children thrive, or find joy in simple pleasures.
Once you have a sense of your long-term intention, write it down, and keep it in mind as you go through separation and divorce. Let it carry you in spite of changing circumstances. Let it be the North Star by which you chart your course through perilous terrain.