If you’re getting divorced you must make choices about important aspects of your life.
If you don’t make these choices other people will, and you may not like the outcomes.
So how can you avoid making the wrong choices in your divorce?
First, adopt a belief that there are no bad choices. Consider your choices and consequences as life lessons and catalysts for change. If you make an unsatisfactory choice, reflect on the events and circumstances that existed at the time, and use the knowledge gained to make different choices in the future.
If you acted impulsively and suffered a loss, slow down and look more closely at the facts before making another choice.
If you doubted your instinct and followed the advice of others, consider information received, but always trust your judgment.
If you made a choice without gathering readily available information and expert insight, next time, use the tools and resources available to improve the chances of preferable outcomes in the future.
If someone else’s choice caused you pain, choose your friends and colleagues differently.
If you procrastinated and someone else made an unsatisfactory choice for you, learn that avoidance is not the best coping mechanism when choices must be made.
Ultimately, if you believe your choices are neither right nor wrong but simply lessons, you may find choices lead to your spiritual evolution and phenomenal personal growth.
Second, because the legal process is unpredictable and not entirely under your control, it’s important to realize that despite your best efforts, you may be dissatisfied with some of the outcomes in your divorce.
Any number of variables, including the actions of your spouse, lawyer, mediator or a judge, may lead to desirable outcomes, and sadly sometimes, there isn’t anything you can do about it. Accepting this fact can help you cope with, and prepare for disappointment.
If you are between a rock and a hard place, be gentle with yourself. Don’t judge your choices as “bad”, “good”, “right” or “wrong”. Skip the criticism and instead, sing your praise for courageously forging ahead in spite of it all.
Third, whenever you’re facing a choice in divorce, do your best to uncover your options. Educate yourself about the process, research proven techniques, tools, services, and experts at your disposal and use all to make better choices.
Divorce might be more complex and challenging than you’d hoped, but you’re capable, proactive, and destined to learn a lot about yourself in the process.
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