Almost everyone including former Buddhist monks struggle in divorce. It’s likely you’ll feel pain too.
But there are 3 keys to making the legal experience less painful, more peaceful, and creating a happy new life in the process.
You’re smart, successful, and spiritual.
You’re a parent, community leader, visionary, executive, social entrepreneur, conscious attorney, doctor, actor, coach, healer, scientist, homemaker, teacher, author, coach, consultant or retired.
You fearlessly forge paths and traverse obstacles, but there’s one hurdle you’re finding difficult to clear because you’re unsure, stressed or uncharacteristically easily triggered: Divorce.
You’ve spoken to therapists, taken their advice to heart, and you still can’t talk to your spouse without losing your cool. You may have met a mediator who seemed promising until he/she said: “Go home and talk about it.” What?
Your friends and family try to help, but their good faith gestures only confuse and fuel anxiety and depression – two emotions you don’t need to amplify when facing questions like:
“What’s the value of our house, business, stock options?”
“Should I go back to work or school or launch my dream business?”
“Where will we live – how will the kids handle the divorce?
“Do we need a child custody evaluation, will we have to go to court?”
You’ve toyed with the idea of speaking to a lawyer – everyone does having heard horror stories – but you’re frightened speaking to an attorney means paying a $20,000 retainer and $500 to $700 hourly.
Your feelings and concerns are valid. Your desires are justified.
You’re on a precipice, walking a tight rope, and your mental, emotional, and financial well being are at risk.
So how do you make separation and divorce less painful, even peaceful? How do you create a happy new life during and after divorce?
There are 3 keys to reducing pain and improving the odds of having a peaceful divorce and creating a happy new life.
Formulate clear step-by-step-plans, take laser-focused action, and maintain momentum. Coupled with a series of comprehensive planning tools and unwavering support, I will help you gear-up and move through divorce with determination. Together we’ll take a thoughtful, let’s-get-this-done attitude. We’ll clarify who you are, where you’ve been, where you are, we’ll envision your happy new life happy, then figure out how you get from here to there.
Sidestep legal and financial pitfalls. Divorce can quickly spiral into a costly, drawn-out procedure, especially if your case goes to court. And while good attorneys are worth their rates, sometimes hiring a “pitbull” can cost you more in the end. I’ll support your tactics and strategy with rock-solid legal acumen, a holistic perspective, and an aim to help you move through a challenging process as quickly, smoothly, and affordably as possible – even in complex cases.
Springboard into success. I’ll help you go beyond the paperwork and envision the life you want on the other side of your divorce, so you can structure your settlement with this in mind. We’ll take a holistic approach to this process, keeping your hopes, goals, and values in mind. I know what’s it’s like to start from ground zero (financially), and together we’ll strive for a new life that’s better than okay.
Keep it peaceful. You don’t need a war to get what you want, and you don’t need to turn your spouse into the enemy to reach a fair agreement. I’ll help you stick up for yourself, and keep things as friendly and peaceful as possible.
Build your divorce dream team. You’ll get my expert advice on what you need to know in the form of one-on-one personalized time with me, a divorce veteran with 23 years of legal, business, and real estate experience. I’ll coach and help you determine whether to hire (or replace) attorneys, mediators, forensic experts, therapists, child specialists, private judges, real estate agents, appraisers, and other invaluable members of your support team.
Practice Mindfulness. Even spiritual masters like Jack Kornfield struggle in a divorce. So you’ll probably feel some pain too. But you’re far less likely to “take the bait” or spin out of control when you have a mindful guide by your side. I’ll help you stay grounded, return to center, and be present — especially when it gets tough – by being a calming, non-judgmental presence.
Honor your heart. Like a safe harbor in a storm, I’ll provide a calming, safe space for you to process both the practical and emotional complexity of your divorce … so you can harness its power for personal transformation.
I think of myself as a strong and confident woman. Going through this divorce with you has shown me that no matter how much adversity is thrown at me, I work through it and know at that the end of the day, I will be okay.” Nelly
Individual coaching sessions over the course of 4-weeks will include:
Exploration. Also known as: The beginning. During our first week, and at the beginning of every coaching sessions, we’ll spend 1:1 time diving into exactly who you are and what you’re going through. We’ll discuss your values, dreams, goals, challenges. I’ll ask laser focused questions to gather relevant facts to identify legal and logistical issues and formulate a holistic plan to peacefully navigate separation, and divorce, and creating a happy new life for you.
Education. You need to know at least some of the law. Specifically, California family law, and in our second session together, you’ll learn the ins and outs specific to your situation and the facts of your case. After prioritizing your issues, we’ll be ready to head into week 3, prepared and excited.
Creation. Also known as, brainstorming sessions. We turnover stones and pinpoint options, best and worst, to research and consider as solutions for your case. We dig in, discuss what matters most to you, and craft plans designed intentionally to help you peacefully resolve issues and lay the foundation, or launch you right into, a new life you love. Think career, home, finances, family, law, logistics.
Execution. Every great plan requires concerted and consistent action. Between every coaching session, you’ll accomplish measurable goals and satisfy milestones so you actually legally separate, divorce, and begin your new life. You do this with confidence strength and grace -no matter how sticky- till your new happy ending.
You might not look forward to a divorce, but you can look back on it and admire your grace, courage, and resourcefulness. I’d be honored to show you how.
Ready to find peace and happiness?
Here’s How California Divorce Coaching Works
1. Apply by completing the form below
2. Chat with my dream team who will answer your questions
3. If we’re a fit, schedule four consecutive weekly coaching sessions and make a payment (
4. Speak with me for 60 minutes each week on the same day and time via Skype or a phone line
5. Be inspired and motivated to have a peaceful divorce and create a happy new life