You’re smart, compassionate, kind, resourceful, self-starting, open-minded, and persistent.
You may be a parent, community leader, executive, entrepreneur, attorney, doctor, actor, business owner, finance manager, scientist, homemaker, teacher, author, coach, consultant or retiree.
Normally, you rise to any challenge and chew on problems until they’re solved. The kid’s science project you learned about last night? No problem. Environmental and social issues? You’re a tireless advocate making a difference in the world.
But there’s one hurdle you don’t want to, or can’t seem to face with confidence: Divorce.
Divorce is the elephant you’ve tip-toed around for months, maybe years. Or, divorce is a sore topic of conversation that makes your temper flare or heart sink. Divorce is keeping you up at night and weighing you down because you keep asking yourself: When did things go wrong? What do I do now? How will the kids react? Where will I live? Can I start a new business? Do I get a job? Should I hire an attorney? May I keep the house? Will I ever be happy again?
You may have spoken to therapists, wholeheartedly taken their advice yet, find yourself in a state of despair. Maybe you’ve done research, found scant data online and still, have countless unanswered questions.
You toy with the idea of speaking to a lawyer, but you’ve heard horror stories about legal fees and worry that somehow, someway, a consultation will lead to conflict, misunderstanding and debilitating warfare. Maybe you met a mediator who sent you away with instructions that didn’t make sense: “You should go home and talk about these issues with your spouse.”
Now, you’re frustrated, scared, confused, overwhelmed, annoyed, paralyzed, angry, spinning your wheels or eager to move on. You want control of your life, family, finances and future. You don’t want to be gouged by strangers or told how to live – you want to write your own script.
I get it. I got divorced as a young student with one year of law school under my belt and almost quit law school twice in the process. As a former San Francisco family law trial attorney and mediator of 23 years I’ve also met hundreds of strong capable men and women whose strengths were undermined by the loss of love and stresses of separating and getting divorced.
P was a fifty-four year-old doctor with a successful practice who kept getting stuck on “why” when her husband of 20 years unexpectedly announced he was moving out, tried to force T to cosign a $500,000 loan, then brokered the sale of their community property business for less than fair market value sale of the business and accepted a job that paid one-third his salary to reduce his child and spousal support obligations.
M was a thirty year-old stay-at-home mom of three whose anger made it difficult to see that her husband’s settlement offers were reasonable in light of their financial circumstances, and that continuing her hunt for hidden assets would almost certainly be a waste of valuable limited resources.
T was a forty-one year-old entrepreneur whose inability to cope with high levels of stress kept causing her to shut-down and tune-out when she needed to communicate with her husband and business partners while they negotiated the terms of her divorce and a series A round of venture capital funding of $20 million.
Grappling with issues of divorce and stress brings up many important questions: Is it possible to make good choices while under immense pressure? Can you really maintain your peace of mind during a times of uncertainty? Can you find a skillful way to deal with legal and logistical divorce issues while feeling emotionally drained and exhausted? Might you improve the outcome of your divorce by restoring order in your life today?
I believe the answer to all of these questions is yes. There are practical tools at your disposal that can help you find peace, solve difficult divorce problems, and create a new life you love.
So why do some people move through divorce with minimal turbulence, while others struggle? It comes down to how they master their mindsets, manage their cases, and whether they methodically approach divorce problems like a professional. Think about it. If you let fear, anger or despair run the show, fail to tend to legal and logistical requirements, and take a haphazard approach, then odds are, you’ll bumble along in and after divorce. But master those things, and you’ll greatly improve the odds of smoothly transitioning out of your marriage while laying the foundation for a great new life.
As a California divorce coach, I’m here to help you be a master case and life manager who uses the same methodology California’s best family law trial attorneys use to solve complex divorce problems and create a new life you love.
Ready to get started? Great.
- Begin by telling me a little about you and your spouse by completing the form below. The information you provide is received in confidence and I will not share it with others.
- Once my assistant receives your inquiry, she will email or call, whichever you prefer, usually within 24 hours. During your chat, my assistant will answer your questions about working with me, and if we appear to be a good fit, she’ll schedule our first coaching session. If your appointment is for an hour or less, my assistant will preauthorize your credit card.
- On the day and time of your coaching session, you and I will speak over the phone, Skype or FaceTime. I’ll answer your practical, personal and logistical questions. If you’re getting divorced in California, I’ll explain California family laws and procedures. I’ll help you identify and prioritize your options, manage your time, and describe specific steps you can take to navigate divorce from the inside out and create a new life on purpose.
- Coaching sessions may be scheduled daily, weekly, bi-weekly, monthly or on-demand to suite your needs.
- Once you’re an established client, you may text and email whenever a need arises or schedule same day appointments. I always respond as soon as I’m able.
What are the fees?
4 hours for $1,000*
2 hours for $600
1 hour for $380
3o minutes for $200
*Fees are nonrefundable and must be prepaid.
When can I help?
I may be available to speak today, tomorrow or early next week.
Ready to get started?
Call my assistant at 415-968-3028 or complete the form below and schedule a coaching session.